MTV Star/Gay Activist Talks Threesomes, Infidelity on 'The View'

"If you think monogamy is the most important thing in a relationship, marry a girl."

Last week on The View, Dan Savage was dishing out some advice on marriage and infidelity. Savage is a sex columnist, MTV star and gay activist. While describing how he is not monogamous with his partner Terry Miller, Barbara Walters inquired as to the process of informing one's partner after being unfaithful. 

Savage responded, "When I’m cheating on my partner, he’s cheating on me at the same time -- at the other end of the same guy...It’s not cheating when everyone agrees!"  Host Jenny McCarthy challenged Savage about his views on fidelity, asking "But one of the comments you made, made me go ‘What?’ Which is, you believe monogamy in long-term relationships is unrealistic. Why do you say that?"

Whereupon Savage explained, 

SAVAGE: The evidence is in: 60 percent of men, 40 percent of women cheat in those relationships eventually.  So it's not that monogamy isn't an ideal or goal that people should strive for. I don't think people should break your monogamous commitments. But we should ask ourselves going into that kind of relationship – serious, committed – what will we do when the inevitable happens, and you or me cheat? Are we going to be the Clintons, and our marriage is going to survive this, or are we going to be the Sanfords and divorce?

McCARTHY: You’re saying make a deal before you get into a relationship?

SAVAGE: Discuss the near-inevitability that there will be an infidelity.

McCARTHY: I’d be so out of there in two seconds!

The segment finsihed off with Savage explaining that men more than women have an issue with monogamy. "If you think monogamy is definitional for marriage, if you think monogamy is the most important thing in a relationship, marry a girl."

 

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