"I have two sons," writes feminist Jody Allard in Role Reboot. "They are strong and compassionate—the kind of boys other parents are glad to meet when their daughters bring them home for dinner. They are good boys, in the ways good boys are, but they are not safe boys. I’m starting to believe there’s no such thing."
Allard describes what happened when her previous Washington Post article went semi-viral about raising sons within a so-called rape culture. "[F]or the first time my sons encountered my words about them on their friends’ phones, their teachers’ computers, and even overheard them discussed by strangers on a crowded metro bus," she wrote. "It was one thing to agree to be written about in relative obscurity, and quite another thing to have my words intrude on their daily lives."
Yes, it would be quite unnerving for your mom to write an article called, "My teen boys are blind to rape culture," don't you think? Now, she's writing an article about how he still doesn't get it. And her disturbing political rants have driven him to explore rightwing sites. Good work, feminism!
He doesn’t understand why I lumped him and his brother together in my essay. He sees himself as the “good” one, the one who is sensitive and thoughtful, and who listens instead of reacts. He doesn’t understand that even quiet misogyny is misogyny, and that not all sexists sound like Twitter trolls. He is angry at me now, although he won’t admit that either, and his anger led him to conservative websites and YouTube channels; places where he can surround himself with righteous indignation against feminists, and tell himself it’s ungrateful women like me who are the problem.
That's the best news we've heard all day. Feminism that demands mothers turn on their own sons is pure evil, and it's great that her son realizes it. At least when he's going through his years of therapy, he'll know exactly where to place the blame.
I love my sons, and I love some individual men. It pains me to say that I don’t feel emotionally safe with them, and perhaps never have with a man, but it needs to be said because far too often we are afraid to say it. This is not a reflection of something broken or damaged in me; it is a reflection of the systems we build and our boys absorb.
Um, she's not correct about that. This is definitely a reflection of something broken in her. Let's hope for the sake of her family that she fixes it -- or that her sons escape.
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h/t Role Reboot